Recently a lot of my female-identified and femme-presenting friends have been talking about being hit on, verbally harassed, and otherwise accosted by nasty cis men in public spaces.
And I'm wondering why I don't hear about it more. Is this a Summertime deal, since folks are dressing for the unseasonably hot weather, or are dudebros feeling super bold and mouthy form all the Sunshine we're getting?
Listening to my friends vent has been super enlightening and makes me think back to times before I began transitioning (because three years is apparently enough time for me to forget some things) ....
In what ways did (aggressive) misogyny affect me?
How did unwarranted/lewd/asshole comments impact the way I moved in the world?
and some questions that I now hold, namely
in what ways am I an asshole with this cis male-passing benefits?
I don't need to be leering on the street to be an asshole--cutting my friends off in conversations, taking up unnecessary space, not interrupting problematic situations when it's safe to
these are gateway behaviours
or at least they are for me.
and I feel I'm getting a little lax....
And naturally race and place colour everything a different hue and stil...
bell hooks and We Real Cool: Black Men and Masculinity is helping me as I reflect
duh
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