Over-Communicating

My roommate AL shared some advice my other roommate CF gave them, something along the lines of "Sometimes you have to over-communicate, as in talk about every little thing, in order to make sure things are as clear as they can possibly be and leave nothing to the imagination."

Wise words.

I've found that I've been over-communicating a lot lately. I know myself well enough that my vibrant and vivid imagination will find any hiccup in a situation and blow it out of proportion. It's something I do, and it causes a lot of grief.  So why not talk about it? Why not eliminate the stress and strain and the hours of cyclical thinking? Why not just ask for clarification and spend a bit more time talking about it in order to avoid it later on?

So I do. I've been talking more with folks I care about and really going out of my way to over-communicate.

And it's been great.

I find that people really appreciate the extra time and effort I'm willing to give to talk about things. I also fid that it makes the channels of communication more readily accessible, in that if there's something bothering people I share relationships with, they bring it up and we discuss it, rather than letting it fester and get ugly.

Over-communicating is saving me a lot of time and energy, and also allowing me to deepen bonds I already have.

I highly recommend it.