Preferred Name and Pronouns

Hi, my name is Auri and I use they/them/theirs pronouns.  He/him/his are ok too.

I just wanted to make a little list about what happens in my head when folks don't use my preferred name/pronouns.

1) I feel invalidated.  I feel like shit because I don't think I'm important enough in your life for you to remember my fucking name and pronouns. I'm your friend? You care for me? Then fucking remember!  You're most likely not the first person today that has 'forgotten' (read: fucked up) my name and/or pronouns.

2) I hate you a little bit.  I recognise that you 'forget' and all, but I still hate you, just a little. Because you've made me feel like shit.

3) I lose respect for you. Especially if you've been told before which name and pronouns I prefer.  Transphobia is an ugly thing, and your taking part in it!

4) I hold grudges.  It's my Scorpio moon, what can I say?

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