Trans*Talk

I'm feeling a little conflicted.  Today I twice engaged in trans*talk with cis folks.  While that in itself is not problematic, I kind of feel like I breached some code of secrecy.  Like in Harry Potter, where there's the Int'l Statue of Secrecy.  -____-

It's kind of like with white folks and talking about the Black experience.  But then there are movies and tons of literature about that.  The trans* experience is still flying under the radar, so it's a bit more... complex.

... I think it's also the sometimes tactless questions that arise, and having to figure out how to buffer them.  For example, asking me about whether or not I intend to 'go on hormones' or 'have the Surgery' (I'm grimacing as I write this) is to be all up in my business.  I don't even know if there's a cis equivalent, it's so offensive.  It's just rude and disrespectful, and asking about intensely personal things in such a nonchalant way? When people live and die by these things?  I just... I can't.

I've been contemplating on a way to deflect these inappropriate questions posed by ignorant cis folks in a gentler way, while still being direct....  Until that time, I'm gonna be smashing toes when people ask the stupidest questions as if they were my best fucking friend or my fucking physician.

Cis folks doing the most....